These type of barriers are not meant to be solid, they are meant to absorb the impact in many ways...from deflection (of car or barrier), deformation (of barrier), breakage (of barrier, bolts and supports). Each component requires a certain level of force to fail, and the safety certificate for the track will tell you where you need what (at a minimum) for maybe the 1 in 1000 case (which this was).
The barrier only 'failed' that way because they weren't designed with the HALO device in mind, or to be prised apart that much before popping off the bolts holding them in place.
If the cars had no HALO device, then it probably wouldn't have 'failed' so much, but then the outcome would have been much worse.
Looking at the aerial shots during the red flag, it did seem to me that the barriers came out at a sharper angle, wrong layout than I'd expect.
I'm not sure whether Grosjean would have preferred crashing into the armco barriers, or the concrete blocks that were put in their place afterwards. Maybe the concrete blocks would not absorb the impact as much and that 53G impact might have been a 153G impact?
With the money F1 have (and some of these circuits/states), there should be no excuse not to have the 'best' protection around every part of the track - but what's 'best' for one situation/type of crash, is not always the best for another.